What We Owe

I hung out with an old high school classmate last week. I see him about once a year. Before I go in, I find myself playing out possible confrontational conversations I'll have with him. I'll draw lines in my mind as to what point I'll give myself permission to leave or feel offended. And the fact that I do this at all probably means we shouldn't hang out. Sounds totally healthy right?

But we've known each other for a long time. And history has to count for something.

The answer is no it doesn't. History counts for nothing if the person is abusive or a bully. And sometimes it may take you 8 years to realize what your husband can point out in 8 seconds. But never mind how long it takes or who says the clarifying statements. The truth is history holds very little water when the present is being (always has been) a complete ass.